The Discourse
This isn’t hard. Learn to listen to people and their lived experiences and consider that you don’t need to walk into every discussion as if you’re the only one with a valid opinion.
This isn’t hard. Learn to listen to people and their lived experiences and consider that you don’t need to walk into every discussion as if you’re the only one with a valid opinion.
There is no community when every moment is a moment you could be stabbed by the people alongside you. There’s no future in that. Sure, we win some battles, but that’s as good as it gets and we can have more than that.
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Reflection is an important part of playing tabletop games well whether you play them offline or on and the last few days have found me orbiting my thoughts on experiencing me as a player and how that informs the ways I behave as a DM.
That seeing these boundaries enforced in the real world has you shook to the core because you then have to worry that it might be you one day.
We don’t have to think too hard about the times that someone says a single negative thing whether openly or behind closed doors and suddenly either opportunities or whole accounts disappear.
You don’t get to invoke care and empathy to get sales on your books or a bump in your youtube subs or twitter follows, but not when someone shows up on your socials commenting on the bits of your personal life you decided to place out there for public consumption.
It’s easy to let social media warp our RTs, posts, and such into something much bigger than they are, but if we’re going to call ourselves activists or advocates, that should be a choice we actively make, not something that that gets ascribed to us without our consent because we RT’d something from LilNasX.
The last time we were here, we didn’t speak openly and honestly until it was too late and people were deeply involved… and deeply hurt. I want to give these words to anyone who reads in an effort to avoid that. Let’s take a close look together on main and get into the mess of this on main and move forward in truth before the next spectacle and subsequent attempts to profit on our pain come around.
If we’re gonna advocate for “do it on your/our own”, then we need to advocate for the levels of tech literacy required to create and maintain the structure. I’m not seeing this part of the conversation where you have to get into the weeds of this and build it from scratch and the year(s) it will take to test it, refine it, soft launch it, take it to market… ya know, own it. So let’s talk about what that looks like.
Where and for what reason is this energy being spent talking about anything but dismantling that shit instead of how you, specifically, don’t benefit from it?